It’s Ladies Choice
Saturday, 28. August 2010
So prop 8, people! Â Now, neither planning on getting gay-married myself anytime soon nor living in California, I have to admit I’ve been on the fringes of the issue. Â I mean, sure, I’ll listen to Bernadette Peters any day!
But that aside there’s an issue that always drives me crazy when it comes to gay rights – and that is those gays who insist they were born that way, and that’s why they’re entitled to these rights. Â First of all there is no definitive evidence that this is the case – there have been some studies that support this and others that oppose it. Â Second of all whether someone is born to act a certain way should not guarantee them the right to go against the law. Â Some individuals are “born killers” and have brains hard-wired for sociopathy – does that mean murder should be acceptable in their cases because they were born to be killers? Â That’s utterly ridiculous.
Now I’m not saying that an individual cannot be born to an exclusively homosexual orientation or an exclusively heterosexual orientation (in all honesty it probably is in most cases), simply that it hasn’t been proven and that it shouldn’t matter.
Here in America, the best part of America, the part we all praise, is the freedom. Â Freedom of speech, freedom of religion, freedom from having to quarter soldiers in your home….
So why is there such an insistence on proving homosexuality to be a pre-determined state before allowing equal rights?  We don’t require the same in other situations.  Preferring chocolate is genetically predetermined in some people – should people buying chocolate have to prove that before their purchase goes through?  Some couples – heterosexual couples – are attracted to each other on a genetic level, while others simply choose logically who would be good for them.  Are we to deny marriage to the second group because they are making a “choice”?
Even if being homosexual is genetically determined, what about the bisexuals (or anyone else not a perfect 6 on the Kinsey scale)? Â Which marriage do they get? Â Considering they could potentially “help” their homosexual urges are they confined to “opposite-marriage”?
The issue with gay marriage seems to be it will dissolve the sanctity of marriage. Â What sanctity, though? Â Heterosexual individuals can get married to their partner before they’ve even met – arranged marriages and mail-order brides occurring in America – yet gay couples cannot marry the partner they’ve been with for years. Â It is argued they will not be able to produce children – but what of sterile hetero couples or couples who simply choose not to reproduce? Â Does the lack of reproduction nullify those marriages? Â It is worried that some same-sex individuals who are not actually a couple will take advantage of marriage benefits by posing as a married couple. Â Well, I won’t even start on the inequality of those benefits (maybe a little – someone who is married is entitled to more money than someone who is single, why? Â The single person is likely to need the money more!) but is their anything in place to stop heterosexual friends from doing the same thing (I’ve been asked multiple times to enter such a partnership)?
Whether an individual is born gay or not shouldn’t be an issue – and I wish the gays would stop focusing on that anytime there’s a debate involving gay rights. Â The pure and simple truth is that homosexual activity is only a problem when it comes to religion – there is absolutely no call to politically ban it. Â America is supposed to pride itself on freedom of religion – when we start making policy people’s private lives solely because they are doing something wrong based on our religion we can no longer say our country demonstrates that freedom.
And now an excerpt from Stephen Colbert’s “I Am America, and So Can You!”
I chose the urges that made my father stop talking to me; I selected the longings that led a group of morally stronger men to beat me up in a parking lot; I even picked the sense of contentment I felt during a three-year live-in relationship with an older man.



